“A message of hope ,To the young people of Kashmir: Do not let the harsh realities of life push you toward a mirage of escape, ”says Dr Fiaz Maqbool
DR.FIAZ MAQBOOL FAZILI
Substance abuse is a silent epidemic in Kashmir. Behind the scenic valleys and picturesque mountains, lies an unsettling reality: a growing number of young people falling prey to the dark world of addiction which is like a hornet nest . As someone who has battled this affliction and emerged on the other side, I feel compelled to share her journey. It is not easy to bare one’s soul, but if her story can save even one person from falling into this pit, it will be worth it. Samira, (name changed )an 19-year-old from Civil Lines, was a diligent 12th-grade student and a NEET aspirant. As the only child of two working parents—one of them a busy Medical practitioner( profession changed) —had grown up in a disciplined yet lonely environment. One evening, after a particularly gruelling session at her coaching center, some classmates invited her to a nearby café. Intrigued and craving a break, she joined them. The coffee and croissant served was unlike anything she had ever tasted, its richness enveloping her senses. That night, Samira felt as if she was transported to another world, a euphoric state that was almost surreal. The next day, after her coaching class, Samira eagerly sought out her friends to return to the café, but they were nowhere to be found. Undeterred, she ventured alone, ordering the same coffee in hopes of recreating the experience. To her dismay, the taste wasn’t the same, nor did it bring the same intoxicating sensation. Yet, she kept going back, night after night, chasing the elusive high she had to be friendly with her friends. Over time, the visits became a ritual, and the coffee an obsession. Slowly but surely, Samira found herself increasingly dependent, the vibrant dreams of becoming a doctor fading as she spiralled into a trap she never saw coming. “This is a private confession of vulnerability, a chronicle of how I fell into the trap of substance abuse, like hornet nest , lessons I learned, and the advice I have for young people who stand on the precipice of this dangerous mirage”.,Samira confided in me after assurance on confidentiality ,respecting her privacy on identity .
The Descent into the Abyss -Like most stories of addiction, mine begins with curiosity and an illusion of control. I was an ordinary teenager growing up in Kashmir, a place of immense natural beauty but also of deep social and political turmoil. Life in the valley is often overshadowed by conflict, uncertainty, merit becoming casualty and a lack of opportunities, creating a fertile ground for anxiety and frustration for weak souls. It started innocuously. My friends and I would hang out, looking for ways to escape the monotony of life. Someone introduced a cigarette into the group, and soon, smoking became a regular ritual initially in washrooms ,later in empty parks , picnic spots etc . It made us feel rebellious and grown-up. Before long, someone brought something stronger labelled it cannabis plus . At first, it felt harmless. It was just occasional use, just to “have fun” or “relax.” But the truth about substance abuse is that it creeps up on you. The occasional use became more frequent, and soon you are introduced to harder things —chemical substances- pills, injections, snuffing and substances like heroin ,I didn’t even bother identifying nor knowing I could be victim of deadly disease like HIv, Hepatitis C etc. What started as an escape from reality became the reality itself.
The Illusion of Control -The most dangerous lie I told myself during my descent was, “I can quit anytime I want.” But addiction is insidious; it makes you believe you’re in control even as it tightens its grip. By the time I realised I was trapped, I had lost control of my life, future career or marriage looked too distant of dreams . Drugs promised a temporary escape from the pain, but they only deepened it. I became irritable, my relationships suffered, and my academic performance plummeted. My parents, once my pillars of support, became strangers to me as I withdrew into my own world of secrecy and lies. What made it worse was the stigma. In a conservative society like ours, admitting to addiction is seen as a moral failing, huge setback not a disease but a tsunami,and biggest issue is how to break the unpleasant disastrous news to parents knowing the shock they would have, I felt trapped in a cycle of shame and dependence, with no way out. I was wrong oblivion of facts that parents at all stage love you are true well wishers , hiding is not a solution but an extension of a dark abyss of miseries even for parents . Yes they will get shock of life momentarily but obscuring facts wont do either good as mole has to be treated before it is malignant eats whole family,s respect and reputation
Hitting Rock Bottom -Every addict has a breaking point, and mine came one fateful night. I overdosed and had to be rushed to the hospital. Seeing the tears in my mother’s eyes and the helplessness in my father’s face was a moment of reckoning. I had destroyed not only myself but also the people who loved me the most. That night, as I lay in the hospital bed, I made a vow to myself: I would not let drugs dictate my life any longer. Next day we were on aeroplane to outside state for de- addiction therapy, as locally there is fear of being identified and centres are not truly geared up as you wish to be having many concerns , need more in quantity and quality improvement The road to recovery was long and arduous, but it was the best decision I ever made. Now I m reborn ,strongly adhered to regular religious practices, keeping supererogatory fast’ s of Monday’s , Thursdays every week that gives me strange self confidence ,and sense of contentment with purity .
Lessons Learned Addiction is a Disease, Not a Weakness – One of the biggest lessons I learned is that addiction is not a moral failing; it is a disease that requires treatment and support. The stigma surrounding addiction often prevents people from seeking help, such mindset should change but recovery is impossible without acknowledging the problem.
Peer Pressure is Real but Can Be Resisted –
Many young people fall into substance abuse due to peer pressure ,a joy ride of thrill, ecstasy or just in a company of fun group .It is important to recognise that true friends will never push you to do something harmful. Learning to say “no” and be strong is a skill that can save your life and eventually family too from a huge tragedy.
Mental Health Matters -Substance abuse is often a symptom of deeper issues like anxiety, depression, or trauma. Addressing these underlying problems is crucial for long-term recovery. For me, therapy and mindfulness practices were instrumental in healing.
Support Systems are Crucial –
There is Always Hope No matter how deep you’ve fallen, There is always a way out.
Recovery is not a solo journey. It requires a strong support system, whether it’s family, friends, society or support groups. I was fortunate to have parents who stood by me despite everything, and I owe much of my recovery to their unwavering love., to my faith to my Allah ,
Allah loves us more than seventy mothers, Allah knows best concerning that. It is sufficient for us to know that the Mercy of Allah encompasses all things. O Allah, have mercy upon us, O Most Merciful of those who show mercy.
Recovery is possible with determination, the right resources, and a willingness to change.
Tips for Youngsters to Avoid the Trap Stay Informed- Knowledge is power.
Understand the risks and consequences of substance abuse. Ignorance is one of the biggest reasons people fall into the trap.
Choose Your Friends Wisely -Surround yourself with people who inspire and uplift you. Avoid those who encourage destructive behaviours.
Develop Healthy Coping Mechanisms -Life is full of challenges, but drugs are not the solution. Find healthy ways to cope with stress, such as sports, art, music, or meditation. Focus on Your Goals – Having clear goals and aspirations can keep you on the right path. Whenever you feel tempted, remind yourself of what you stand to lose.
Seek Help Early- If you ever feel overwhelmed or tempted, don’t hesitate to seek help. Talk to a trusted adult, a counselor, or a friend. Early intervention can prevent a lot of damage.
Raise Awareness – Be an advocate for awareness in your community. Talk openly about the dangers of substance abuse and encourage others to make informed choices.
The Way Forward for Kashmir’s Youth – Kashmir’s youth face unique challenges, but they also have immense potential. As a society, concerned or consious citizens we need to address the root causes of substance abuse, including unemployment, lack of recreational activities, and mental health stigma.
Community-driven initiatives, awareness campaigns, and accessible rehabilitation centre’s can make a significant difference. Parents need to create an environment where their children feel comfortable discussing their struggles. Schools should incorporate life skills education to help students make better choices. As individuals, we must break the silence and stigma surrounding addiction. Sharing stories of recovery, like mine, can inspire hope and encourage others to seek help.
A Message of Hope -To anyone struggling with addiction: You are not alone, and your life is worth saving. Recovery is not easy, but it is possible. Take it one day at a time, and remember that every step forward, no matter how small, is a victory.
To the young people of Kashmir: Do not let the harsh realities of life push you toward a mirage of escape. True strength lies in facing your challenges head-on and choosing a path of growth and resilience. My journey from the depths of addiction to a life of sobriety has been nothing short of a miracle. It is a testament to the fact that no matter how far you’ve fallen, there is always a way back. The trap of substance abuse is a dangerous illusion, but with awareness, determination, and support, it can be avoided. Choose life, choose hope, and most importantly, choose yourself.
The author is a clinical auditor and healthcare policy analyst specializing in healthcare quality standards and patient safety. An expert in healthcare reform and quality improvement, Accreditation can be reached at drfiazfazili@gmail.com.