By Davood Peer
Friendship is a divine relationship. We don’t have similarities in our blood, but still, that person cares for us. Irrespective of all differences, a friend chooses you, understands you, and supports you. Whenever you are in self-doubt or lacking confidence, talk to a friend, and your worry will surely go away . One of the purest relationships is the relationship of friendship. A person without a friend lives a hard life. Everybody needs a companion to deal with our experience. It is dependent upon you that how you define friendship. It can be sharing your food, taking care of that person, supporting them in their thick and thin. You may not be loud about it, but if you care for a person silently, that is what friendship is. Friendship is about laughing together on small things, cherishing every moment you share, standing together for each other even when the world turns its backs towards them. Friendships are sometimes more durable than the relationship of love. Even though the definition of friendship varies from person to person, the core meaning behind it is the same for everybody. Life is empty without a friend. So when you gain a true friend, make sure you cherish it with all your heart. The person with a real friend, with whom all the things can be shared, is the luckiest in the world. A friend will never judge you, and they will never stop scolding you if you are wrong. But whatever the situation be, they will always be there to support you.
The nature of friendship is necessary for our satisfaction. The advantages of true friendship stay long – life. Likewise, having a reliable friend circle additionally improves our fearlessness. True friendship can’t be worked inside constrained limits like position or statement of faith. It gives us an inclination that somebody needs us, and we are not the only ones. This is genuine that a person can’t live alone.
We often hear people around us saying that they all need to lead a happy life. Now what exactly is happy life? Is there a definition or a thumb rule that could be applied to attain a happy life? Well as to what I understand, it all depends on how you see and what makes your life that makes it happy or sad. Well even sometimes I wish I had a happy life, and then I think about the numerous other people who do not even have what I have. So then why should I think I need to be happy, when I already am when compared to those who are not? According to me happy life, depends on how you see your life. If we are not greedy and content with what we have and not be jealous of others and happenings in their life, we are almost there!!! What we see in others may not be the actual picture that they have. We might be seeing the outer picture and thinking they are happy, which makes us sad. Being blessed with good food, good friends, good family a good home and being healthy is what counts most important for one to be happy. Whenever I feel a bit sad, my mom has always told me to think of people who do not have homes, proper food, who are sick and dying and have no money to buy medicines, then we would realize how blessed we are and we should be thankful to God and be happy that we are not one among them suffering like them. Isn’t that happiness? Spending time with family, enjoying the small things that we do for them and what they do for us, the little outings and presents that we get, all these matters and would be just right for one to be happy, if we think we just need that much. But if you compare yourselves with others on every single matter, you would never find happiness in your life, and would be all the time frustrated and would not be able to enjoy life. So thank God for what you have and be happy with it.
Life is never easy and bed of roses. So is my life but still I am in love with my life. Life is full of joys and sorrows. In fact sometimes there are less joy and more sorrows. My idea of a happy life is that we should never think too deeply about our bad days and become upset. Instead we must learn on ways over how to deal with our sorrows and overcome them with grace. Dealing with bad situations in an art which can keep us happy always because we cannot deny the bitter truths about life, we are left with finding ways on searching moments of happiness & joys to keep ourselves satisfied.
However the idea of a happy and perfect life varies from person to person as life has different meaning for different peoples. Happiness is a state of mind & is not connected with eminence & material glory. Many people believe in earning so much wealth as they believe that happiness lies in wealth. People believe that money is a route cause of all sadness & rich people enjoys life to the fullest in all the ways. But it is not the fact. In fact rich peoples also face sadness and unhappiness. Some people believe that people happiness is hidden behind high rank & authority. But this also does not hold true. It is seen that there is no person in this world who is completely satisfied with whatever he has. Human wants are endless and he always wishes to achieve more and more. The endless desires of human beings are the main reason behind all the miseries of life. Therefore it is necessary to have contentment in life which is very essential for happiness. Worldly possessions are limitless. You can never be happy and satisfies if you are always after owning all sorts of luxurious things in life. If you are doing this you will gain nothing but give ways to invite sorrows in life. We should live a balanced life by keeping our wants limited. Famous people like Mahatma Gandhi, Christ; Lord Buddha also focused on importance of limiting our wants and desires to achieve true happiness. They said that greater simplicity will lead to greater happiness. They believed that a man with sound health is the happiest person on earth. Your happiness entirely depends upon the way we think. Happiness also lies in the way we act. We must do right deeds to keep ourselves happy. Hence happiness lies nowhere but within our hearts. Honesty and contentment is the key.
Davood Peer is an engineering student and associated with Jammu and Kashmir Students Association.