This relationship is unique in its ways and means as the partners
involved are either getting engaged knowingly or unknowingly which develops a bond forever.
By Yawar Khan
Universal complexity is well known to mankind through years of hard work and dedication since the inception of MAKHLUUK or living community on blue planet. All living creatures survive on the non-living resources and create an interdependence linkage with one another with harmonic balance in eternity. The study of thus harmonic balance compels one to take a pause on the relationship among factors necessary for whooping universe to function. Logically the question leads one to analytical resolution where the common stand raises above religion to believe on some super natural power at the back. Universe as is known and believed is a complex whole beyond understanding of man in entirety. But the consensus on its hidden power is well established reality in contemporary times. To some it’s Allah while others believe in Baghwan or so and so. That’s to say the common belief of entire humanity barring miniscule atheists is presence of Allah behind the wonderful creation of universal complex. Human beings transcended barriers of barbarism and jungle life in quick succession and modified the way they lived to evolve a life worth living. It is this space of contextual dimension where the LAW arose to place of prominence to satisfy the test of time. Ancient societies thrived on saga of MINE AND THINE despite relying on coordinated efforts in a specific community. This rhetoric changed its fate for better and more organised space of thinking in what at present is called as RULE OF LAW over rule of power. Though the informal way was present already in place to what suited human beings in context of time. To its place RELIGIOUS sanction was thoroughly touching the dimensions on WAY OF LIFE in a threadbare manner. This dimension got the sobriquet of what we call as personal law of each community attaching with particular religion. As an analogy we have MUSLIM personal law ,HINDU LAWS and so so many. Here the task is to bring to fore the intricate relationship between marriage to its superset Culture. In a layman’s language culture is synonymous to WAY OF LIFE. Culture includes the multi dimensional manifestations of human beings touching their activities in much more wider manner than one would expect it to be.
The swanky element of relationship these days is the absolute mismatch in ideals for truthfulness and essence of love. In fact the grave and disastrous state of relationship as found these days is correlated with element of infatuation and attraction for a physique which contradicts the guiding principles. A poet in urdu laments like “yay hars wa hawas Kay sodayi aadabi mohbat ka jaanay….. Yay ishq kay maanay ka smjay yay husuni k keemat ka jaanay which nearly translates to all those who are seeking physical satisfaction in the relationship doesn’t understand the essence of love itself. The tragedy of contemporary relationships is lack of essence for immortal soul against outlook of person. This way of setting relationship with beloved is clearly binding string touching only the taste buds of a person without true essence. This is in contrast to What really matters for the ideal relationship. This drastic fall is in reality correlated with certain revolutionary ideologies which turned the things upside down and ruined the sacredness of relations. The initiation of liberal ideology and mentality has benefited to a great extent on one side but has taken a heavy and irreparable toll on the human relations. The saga of terming every relation as business transaction has usurped the ideal meaning of relationship. The materiality in the present era has dominated the real spirits and instincts. It has siphoned away the morals and ethics of human relations and alienated the social virtues from the personality of man. The society provides the raw material for building good credentials of man. Nowadays the society is enthralled with bad virtues for human relations which are viewed via prism of profit and loss. The continue of right and wrong has seen a sharp fall on eve of 21st century due to rise in material status of society. The society which teaches the person pornography and extreme liberty in the personal affairs isn’t expected to bear fruits of ethical relationship.
Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood is the universally quoted dictum. The way we adopt the ideal and the chance we provide for its success is the actual manifestation. An ideal until its practicality can’t be denounced altogether. Having said that ideal world is a world where fault lines come across severe criticism. They produce and in turn get reproduced after a rigorous back and forth analyses. For sake of simplicity the ideal of Ramarajya seems always good in all the circumstances in all ages in all classes of society but the way of its operation mayn’t support the cause. Since the prevailing friction wouldn’t prove it effective due to the conflict of ideals itself. The way of relationship in between and among individuals of society became the arduous task. The complexity of functional hierarchy made the social stability a vulnerable variable. This connotation accumulated challenges as the continuous rise in social functions make the society vulnerable to frictions. This division and dichotomy was thoroughly analysed by Ancient Great Plato through prism of Idealism. Lexically it translates to “the property of a person of having high ideals that are usually unrealizable. However the correlation of this concept in a socio-political dimension was elaborated by Plato in different manner. He presumed Idea to be base of all things in practice. Every Realistic action on ground is preceded by Idea of action in the mental world of man. Simply saying if we have to improve the Governance in real terms we need to improvise the Idea ist and then apply the modified version on ground. Plato’s Idealism initiated a new school of thought to what is termed in present context as School of Political Philosophy. In the world of Lexicography Idealism is antagonistic to Realism of Plato’s pupil Aristotle the great. Is it really antagonistic? Can’t dichotomy be alleviated? Was friction present in all the ages? These set of questions in a common parlance mandate a thorough analysis. The cornerstone of idealism is rested on the belief that Physical world is manifestation of Ideal world. The physical world prevailing in and around us is shaped and reshaped in the world of ideas.
Whenever man embarked on any ambitious journey, mental pursuit always accompanied him. It guides and nourishes the physical parts of man in their orientation to rational enquiry. The story of Yawar and 1925 proved the point of peace and stability in our relationship as main condition for rational advancement. The reign of 1925 proved the patronisation of artistic faculty (Mental peace ) is intricately linked to my present and future. You provided the atmosphere of peace through various strategies for nourishment of artistic mind. In contemporary era the reading of your messages and footprints possess panacea. If the advancement of me Yawar khan is supported by good mental health, any task howsoever big it may be, is in the reach. In our backyard both 1925 and Yawar is boiling with steep ladder of failure which impacts the Mental balance of our future. These out of control conditions should be brought on track for normal functioning. Otherwise dangers loom large. We have to pay for this erosion of mental peace with massive amount. Mental depression without cause may evolve a volcano in future. Let’s be awakened and get reunion. To sum it up the contrast and convergence of Ideal and Real will sustain the course of whole human history. They both are part and parcel of human life. They help one another to resolve conflicting claims for evolution of society where individuals reach to their real existence of physical and spiritual. Reality confirms its ideal sometimes and denounces it other times and there seems no end to this conflict. The solution lies in compatibility between two for concept which applicable at all times. The son’s hindsight is father’s foresight……. Idealistically real fact of the life. One must adore the existing period and live it with enlivened spirit for good experience. What is set for our fortune is in literal sense penned on the face of destiny which is eventual one day. Let ourselves live by facts and cumulate good experiences. After all I plead guilty and I feel apologetic for all my ill wills foes blunders I have been through. Kindly come back if possible am nothing without soul which is dwelling inside your body.
Writer Yawar Khan hails from lolab kupwara and can be reached at syawarkhan1925@gmail.com contact number 9596040609
