Nazia qureshi
The 1990s were more than just another decade in Kashmir—they were an unforgettable chapter for those lucky enough to experience their childhood during that time. Life was simple, but it radiated warmth, joy, and a sense of togetherness that is hard to find today. It was a golden era that shaped our lives, instilled values, and gave us memories that we hold close to our hearts, even as the years roll by.
As American author Jack London aptly said, “You can’t wait for inspiration; you have to go after it with a club.” For the children of the 90s in Kashmir, inspiration didn’t come from screens or gadgets but from the simplicity around them. Each moment held a charm that shaped their creativity, resilience, and bond with their community.
Savoring Kashmiri TreatsFor kids in Kashmir, local snacks were the highlight of childhood. Whether it was the nutty crunch of tilkar (sesame treats), the chewy delight of livriii (licorice sticks), or the vibrant flavors of orange mithai and creamy khoya ice cream, every bite brought unbridled joy. Summers weren’t complete without orange ice bars, and pastries were saved for rare festive occasions, making them all the more precious.
Games That Bound CommunitiesChildren turned neighborhoods into buzzing playgrounds. Games like kona kona (hide-and-seek), tipi tipi top, dumb charades, and antakshari brought laughter to alleyways, verandas, and chinar-covered courtyards. These weren’t just pastimes—they were the foundation of lifelong friendships and the threads that wove communities together.
Family First: Lessons in Love and RespectIn the 90s, respect for elders wasn’t just taught; it was practiced. Children addressed older family members with reverence while younger siblings and cousins basked in unconditional affection. The bond among family members was strong, reflecting a time when relationships were prioritized over personal gain.
Celebrating Cousins’ WeddingsA cousin’s wedding in the 90s was nothing less than a festival of its own. The week-long celebrations brought families and communities together under one roof. From traditional songs to the laughter of children running errands, every moment was an unforgettable experience. The excitement of dressing up for each function and indulging in Kashmiri feasts, while elders narrated stories and joined in the festivities, was an irreplaceable joy. These weddings not only celebrated a union but also reinforced the deep bonds between loved ones.
Creativity Born of NecessityKashmiri children of the 90s were master improvisers. Short pencils and dried-up pens sparked innovations to stretch their utility. The joy of new stationery was unparalleled, proving that simplicity often inspires the deepest appreciation for the little things.
Amaji’s Haven: A Corner of HappinessOne of the fondest memories for many was visiting Amaji’s(my aunt’s) house. Her home was a sanctuary of laughter, where cousins gathered for stories, games, and celebrations. Her New Year’s programs were eagerly awaited and became a symbol of the small joys that made childhood magical.
Winter Nights Full of WarmthDespite Kashmir’s harsh winters, the warmth of family created a special kind of richness. Families gathered in the hamaam (a heated room) with glowing kangris (firepots) by their sides. Storytelling, giggles, and shared moments transformed chilly nights into cherished memories.
Finding Adventure in CurfewsAmid the uncertainties of curfews and hartals, Kashmiri children found excitement in small adventures like long walks to tuition centers. Outings to Mughal Darbar, Shakti Sweets, or nearby waterfalls were rare but unforgettable, transforming ordinary days into memorable ones.
Cricket: The Universal BondCricket wasn’t just a sport—it was an emotion. India-Pakistan matches united families, with someone always assigned to adjust the TV antenna for better reception. The collective cheers during victories and the shared disappointment in defeat brought everyone closer.
Eidi Savings and Board Game SundaysFor 90s kids, saving Eidi was an art. It funded cherished games like carrom boards or outings to enjoy street snacks. Sundays were dedicated to board games and planning adventures, proving that happiness isn’t measured in grandeur but in shared experiences.
Timeless Lessons in SimplicityWith no internet to entertain, storytelling during power outages and heartfelt letters between cousins nurtured creativity and communication. These rituals, though simple, left lasting impressions that shaped who we became.
A Stark Contrast with Today’s GenerationIn contrast, children today are growing up in a vastly different world, dominated by digital screens and instant gratification. While they have access to a plethora of gadgets, apps, and virtual connectivity, the lack of face-to-face bonding, imaginative outdoor games, and shared family rituals often leaves a gap in emotional and community experiences. Technology offers convenience, but it can never replicate the genuine joy of running in the neighborhood alleys, savoringfreshly made snacks, or gathering around grandparents for bedtime stories. Today’s kids are gaining knowledge at lightning speed but may be missing the slower, more profound lessons of resilience, creativity, and connection that defined the 90s.
A Life of True RichnessThe simplicity of the 90s taught children to value relationships and find joy in the little things. Life moved at a slower pace but was enriched by genuine connections and deep gratitude.
The 1990s in Kashmir remind us of a time when life was uncomplicated yet fulfilling. They were the formative years of a generation grounded in love, creativity, and resilience. It was a golden period—a source of endless inspiration for living in the moment and appreciating the beauty of life’s simplest treasure
Nazia Qureshi, holds a Master’s degree in History and Sociology, along with a B.Ed qualification. A former History teacher at Presentation Convent Higher Secondary School, Srinagar, she can be reached at qureshi.nazia321@gmail.com.