We all struggle with the sense that we deserve to be loved. Even if your parents
were awesome, you sometimes wonder, really, why me? What did I do to
deserve this? Interpersonal religions have all sorts of rituals and sacrifices
designed to make them feel u deserve to be!
The unpredictable tomorrow will always tell you that u are deserving for them.
But the horror of getting deserved will never happen unless you prove yourself
to be !Let the divine Belief On Almighty structure your wholesome in such a way
that You magnify yourself to get what you deserve to be !
Syed Anaiyat Bukharie
We all crave love and belonging, yet many grapple with a deep-seated feeling of unworthiness. This isn’t simply a
matter of lacking external validation; even those raised in supportive environments can struggle with feelings of
inadequacy, constantly questioning why they deserve love. This internal struggle reveals that our sense of worth is
built not just on external factors, but also on deeply ingrained internal beliefs.
Throughout history, humans have sought external frameworks to establish their worth. Religions often feature
rituals and sacrifices designed to make individuals feel worthy in the eyes of a higher power. This illustrates the
enduring human quest for external validation and a structured path to achieving a sense of deservingness.
The future, with its inherent uncertainties, plays a complex role in our perception of worth. While hope for the
future can offer a sense of possibility and inherent deservingness, it can also create a conditional element: the idea
that we must “prove ourselves” to truly deserve good things. This creates a tension between inherent worth and
earned worth.
Belief systems, particularly faith in a higher power, can significantly influence self-perception. Such beliefs can
empower individuals to “magnify” themselves, fostering the conviction that they are capable of achieving what they
believe they deserve. This highlights the powerful role of faith in shaping one’s sense of worth and potential.
But what about the intriguing concept of “the horror of getting deserved”? This phrase captures a complex set of
anxieties that can arise when we contemplate actually receiving what we desire:
- The Fear of Responsibility: Receiving what we want often comes with new responsibilities and expectations.
Achieving a long-sought-after goal, for example, can bring new pressures and challenges. This fear of responsibility
can make the prospect of success daunting. - The Fear of Vulnerability: Accepting love and belonging requires vulnerability. Opening ourselves up to others
means risking potential hurt and rejection. This fear of vulnerability can create a barrier to accepting the love we
desire. - The Fear of Inadequacy: Perhaps the most insidious fear is the fear of not being able to maintain the level of
worthiness we believe is required to continue receiving love and acceptance. We may worry that we are not “good
enough” to sustain the positive regard of others.
This “horror” isn’t about fearing good things themselves, but rather about fearing the changes, responsibilities, and
vulnerabilities that come with them. Overcoming this fear requires us to confront our internal beliefs about
worthiness and embrace the idea that we are inherently deserving of love and belonging, regardless of our
achievements or perceived flaws. It’s about recognizing that our worth is not conditional, but rather an intrinsic part
of our humanity. By addressing these deep-seated fears, we can begin to truly accept and embrace the good things
that come our way, and cultivate a genuine sense of self-acceptance.
The Author hails from the lolab Valley and can be reached at syedanaiyatbukharie@gmail.com
