(A Love That Endures: “Once a Kashmiri, always a Kashmiri.The Unyielding Bond of Nostalgia and Identity.)
DR.FIAZ MAQBOOL FAZILI
Kashmir, often referred to as “paradise on earth,” is not only known for its breathtaking beauty but also for the deep-rooted emotional connection its people feel towards their homeland. For every Kashmiri, whether born in a bustling city, a quiet village, or in the diaspora, there exists a shared and unshakeable sense of pride in their ethnic identity.
Being Kashmiri is not just about belonging to a geographical region; it is a profound connection to the land where my roots run deep. This land shaped my identity, nurturing me through the beauty of its valleys, the warmth of its people, and the resilience of its culture. From the sound of rivers like the Jhelum to the towering mountains that cradle our homes, Kashmir has been more than a backdrop—it has been a silent teacher, guiding my childhood with lessons of simplicity, tradition, and endurance. Every street, every scent, every shared smile carries the memories of youth spent with family and friends, growing up with the ever-present backdrop of history and struggle.
To acknowledge this emotional attachment is to honour the place that gave me education and the wisdom of life, both through formal schooling and the lived experiences of the land. It is about recognizing how the values of community, perseverance, and faith are deeply intertwined with the land I call home. Though challenges often shadow its beauty, my love for Kashmir remains unwavering, tied to the memories of my upbringing and the cultural heritage that has shaped my worldviews. It is this emotional bond that defines who I am—a proud Kashmiri, grateful for the enduring connection to the place that gave me so much. “Once a Kashmiri, always a Kashmiri” isn’t just a phrase but a reflection of the deep emotional and spiritual connection each person feels toward their homeland. Regardless of caste, creed, beliefs, religion, gender, financial status—whether low, middle, or high income—or whether one is a celebrity, professional, or artisan, every Kashmiri shares a unique emotional attachment to their land and deep sense of pride in their ethnic identity. This shared identity transcends material differences, and societal divisions binding them together and a bond that keeps their nostalgia alive, even for those who have migrated elsewhere. through a shared history, culture, and land.
A Diverse but Unified Identity:
Historically, Kashmir has been a melting pot of cultures and communities, with influences from Central Asia, Persia, and the Indian subcontinent. This rich history has shaped its people into a resilient and proud community, deeply connected to their land, culture, and traditions. No matter where a Kashmiri may be located, they carry with them the memories of snow-capped mountains, the sound of flowing rivers, and the warmth of a shared cultural identity that has survived countless challenges over the centuries. You can easily identify a Kashmiri, whether Muslim or non-Muslim, from a distance by their distinct physical features. Among the Kashmiri Pandit female community, although many have abandoned the traditional “pherans” (a long robe-like garment), most continue to wear “Dejj Hoor,” their traditional gold earrings. On the other hand, the Muslim community does not have a specific traditional attire. However, the rise of jeans and modern fashion has diluted all what might have once been distinguishing cultural clothing in recent times. Kashmiris come from various backgrounds. They might be artisans weaving traditional Pashmina shawls or professionals excelling in modern-day technology and medicine. Celebrities who have gained fame on the national or international stage may stand alongside humble workers in terms of their undying love for Kashmir. Financial status may differ, with some families enjoying the comforts of wealth and others struggling with the daily hardships of life, but these differences pale when it comes to their Kashmiri identity.
Migration and the search for better career, or business opportunities, safer heaven and more stable environments or personal growth, did not hinder in the love for the land and the sense of belonging is shared equally by those who have stayed behind. Despite being physically distant, their hearts remain tied to the valleys, rivers, and mountains of their birthplace; the longing for Kashmir never fades. Kashmiris who migrate, whether it be for professional aspirations or personal safety, often find themselves caught in a tug of war between two worlds. While they may embrace the opportunities and comforts of their new homes, their nostalgia for Kashmir becomes a constant companion. The longing for their homeland intensifies during moments of joy and sorrow. A wedding in the family or the news of a loved one passing away can bring a flood of memories that remind them of the land they left behind.For many of these Non Resident Kashmiris, settling outside has been bittersweet. On one hand, they’ve found the opportunity to grow, prosper, and provide for their families, but on the other, they’ve faced the pang of leaving behind their beloved homeland. No matter how successful or settled they become in new lands, their hearts remain in Kashmir. They are reminded daily of what they have left behind—familial bonds, childhood memories, the warmth of community, and the tranquillity of the valley. Despite the distance, whether miles or years away, the Kashmiri spirit remains unshaken. Their love for their homeland is a constant reminder that no matter where life takes them, their roots will always trace back to Kashmir, the place they proudly call home.
The Everlasting Bond with the Homeland:
For many Kashmiris, the bond with their homeland is not just an emotional one but a spiritual connection that shapes their identity. It is often said, “Once a Kashmiri, always a Kashmiri.” This phrase captures the essence of the Kashmiri diaspora’s feelings toward their homeland. Whether living in the Middle East, Europe, North America, or elsewhere in India, they never stop being Kashmiris at heart. They may adopt new languages, cultures, and traditions, but the essence of their Kashmiri identity remains intact.
The natural beauty of Kashmir—its lush meadows, serene lakes, and towering mountains—often becomes a symbol of the purity and simplicity that many Kashmiris long for in their adopted lands. This sense of longing is further deepened by the challenges their homeland faces. Political instability, unemployment, drug addiction, and environmental degradation are just a few of the issues that continue to plague the region. For those who have migrated, these problems are not just headlines in the news but personal concerns that weigh on their hearts. They worry for the loved ones they have left behind and for the future of the land they still consider home.
My Heart Cries for My Land.This yearning for Kashmir, “The Kashmir,” becomes especially poignant when faced with the challenges their homeland faces—political instability, economic hardships, or environmental degradation. Non-resident Kashmiris including permanent migrants often feel the weight of responsibility to give back to the land that shaped their identity. Their hearts cry not just for the beauty of their homeland but for its well-being.
The frequent power cuts, long traffic jams, dilapidated roads, unorganised colonies, urban and town planning, alarming rate of substance abuse, corruption and rising costs of living that afflict the everyday lives of those still living in Kashmir do not deter the spirit of the diaspora. Instead, these issues strengthen their resolve to stay connected with their homeland and contribute in whatever way possible. Many Kashmiris living abroad are actively involved in philanthropic efforts, working to improve healthcare, education, and infrastructure in the valley. For them, giving back is not just an obligation but a way to remain rooted in the land of their birth.
The Role of Nostalgia in Shaping Identity: Nostalgia plays a powerful role in the lives of Kashmiris who have migrated. For them, the memories of Kashmir are not just recollections of the past but a source of comfort in times of loneliness and hardship. The taste of traditional Wazwan dishes, the sound of Kashmiri music, respect to diversity in beliefs, communal harmony, tolerance of coexistence and the sight of saffron fields in bloom become cherished reminders of their roots. These memories serve as a bridge between their past and present, allowing them to stay connected to their heritage while navigating life in foreign lands.
Kashmiris are known for their warm hospitality, a trait deeply rooted in their culture and traditions. They are caring, generous, and empathetic, always eager to share what they have, whether with neighbours, friends, or complete strangers. This welcoming nature extends beyond material generosity, as they take great pride in making guests feel comfortable and valued, offering heartfelt conversation, attention, and traditional treats like “Kahwa” and “Haakh “ Their empathetic spirit shines through in times of need, where they often go above and beyond to help others, reflecting the true essence of Kashmiri warmth and community.
Even those who have been away from Kashmir for decades find themselves drawn back to its culture and traditions. Festivals, weddings, and religious ceremonies often become opportunities for the diaspora to reconnect with their roots. They gather in foreign lands to celebrate Kashmiri traditions, passing on their culture to the next generation. In this way, the identity of “Kashmiriness” is preserved, even in distant lands.
Contributing to the Homeland from Afar:For many Kashmiris living abroad, the desire to give back manifests in various forms that contribute to the well-being of their homeland is a driving force. Despite being physically distant, Kashmiris living abroad remain emotionally and intellectually connected to their homeland. They follow the news closely, stay in touch with family and friends, and participate in discussions about the future of Kashmir. For them, being Kashmiri is not just a matter of geography but an integral part of their identity that shapes their worldview. They are acutely aware of the challenges facing Kashmir and feel a sense of responsibility to help. The Kashmiri diaspora has been playing a crucial role through social media, international forums, Ngos and grassroots activism, they continue to voice their concerns and push for positive change support send remittances to support or invest in education sector, imparting vocational training, self-employment entrepreneurship or support charitable organizations working in the valley.
Conclusion: A Love That Endures: “Once a Kashmiri, always a Kashmiri” is more than just a phrase; it is a testament to the enduring bond that ties Kashmiris to their homeland. Whether living in the valley or far away, every Kashmiri carries with them the essence of their culture, traditions, and history. Their love for Kashmir transcends time and distance, manifesting in their nostalgia, their contributions, and their unwavering pride in their identity. In a world where migration has become increasingly common, the story of the Kashmiri diaspora is a powerful reminder of the importance of home.
The Author besides being a Medical doctor at Mubarak hospital , is very active in positive perception management of various moral, social and religious issues. He can be reached at drfiazfazili@gmail.com & twitter
